Wednesday, November 27, 2019

Humility key to peaceful holiday talk, policy advocate writes

As we head into Thanksgiving, Richard Nelson of Kentucky's Commonwealth Policy Center offers suggestions for peaceful conversations among "family members of differing political persuasions." The center says it advocates "values of life, marriage and fiscal responsibility," so Nelson has a religious focus, but also some thoughtful and practical advice:

"Insulating ourselves and our thoughts on important, even controversial subjects, may avoid tough conversations, but hardly garners understanding that brings us closer to our families and loved ones. . . . So how do we rise above our unhealthy tribalism that's reduced us to the sum of our political opinions?

"Start with recognizing that the crazy Republican or discontented Democrat sitting next to you is first and foremost a person endowed with dignity by the Creator. They're a person made in God's image. Believing this tempers your opinions with great humility, which drives away arrogance in a heartbeat.

"Realize that your opinions aren't everything. If you're around long enough you'll find that they change over time. Gasp! You might even be wrong! Cast away unhealthy suspicions and build your conversation upon goodwill and charity toward opponents, even if they're sitting right next to you. Especially if they're sitting right next to you.

"Adopt an attitude of gratefulness. It drives away discontent. We may be creatures with different experiences, persuasions, and markedly differing political opinions but we are creatures made to live in community. We need each other and we need to figure out how to dialogue with one another civilly and respectfully.

"This means we ought to listen carefully. Not simply thinking about the logical flaws or how to dismantle Uncle Bob's political theories. But try to understand their life experiences and worldview. Doing these things may help us to recapture the lost art of conversation."

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