Monday, December 04, 2023

The world is full of lonely people -- part of the antidote is changing how people react to this universal emotion

Loneliness is a human experience and an internal
message. (Photo by Kristina Tripkovic, Unsplash)
Being lonely has become so widespread that globally, one in four adults report feeling sad and alone. Medically, continued loneliness can take a severe toll on people's health, yet "pangs of loneliness aren't catastrophic. In fact, they're nearly universal. What's critical is how people respond to these feelings when they arise," reports Allison Aubrey of NPR. Commenting on the best way to respond to feeling lonely, Dr. Jeremy Nobel, a primary care physician and author of the new book Project UnLonely, told Aubrey, "Just like thirst is a signal you need hydration, loneliness is a signal that you need human connection."

Nobel's book creates a path to "using creative expression as a means to communicate," Aubrey writes. "When there's not a prescribed way to 'belong,' finding connection can be tough. Many people are hesitant to put themselves out there, or they have a hard time communicating what's on their minds. 'This is where the arts can be very powerful because they act as a catalyst to make it easier,' Nobel says. . . . Drawing a picture may seem like a solitary act, but it can be a bridge to connection, a way to express what's on your mind."

Viewing or creating art can improve mood.
(Photo by Jill Dimond, Unsplash)
Nobel has long believed in creative expression as a natural partner to medicinal treatment. "Some of his earliest work was with active-duty service members and veterans returning from Iraq and Afghanistan with post-traumatic stress," Aubrey explains. "They gathered in small groups to engage in artistic expression and mindfulness activities." Nobel told her, "People began telling us that not only were they less stressed out, but they felt more connected to each other, something I later realized was addressing a certain kind of loneliness."

From culinary arts to poetry to gardening, there are ways humans can use curiosity and creative discovery as a way to connect. "Project UnLonely now partners with community-based organizations to develop evidence-based creative expression programs, which can include music, painting, drawing and beyond," Aubrey adds. "Research shows making art or even viewing the work of other people reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol. It also increases levels of the feel-good hormones, including dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin."

While it's hard for loneliness to prevail in the face of curiosity and encouragement, people may struggle to get started. Click here for five ideas that will help overcome those fears.

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